Game of Thrones wedding advice: What the GoT characters can teach us about wedding planning
It’s hard to believe that it’s been two years since the final episode of Game of Thrones aired. While it was an annual treat waiting for the next series to start - and then anxiously waiting for each weekly episode to drop - it wasn’t without some trauma and surprises. It also wasn’t without its fair share of wisdom: all of the characters had a few choice mottos and ideas along the way. And it’s my firm belief that a lot of them apply to weddings just as much as they do Westeros life! So, if you’re looking for a little Game of Thrones wedding inspiration, I’ve pulled together some of the best advice that the Houses Stark, Lannister, Targaryen et al had to offer…
And I promise, no spoilers if GoT is on your binge watch list!
Game of Thrones wedding lessons for during the planning
The Lannisters: Always pay your debts
They may not have been the most loved family in Westeros, but their family motto can be classed as the first rule of wedding planning: Always pay your debts.
Weddings can be costly and if you don’t budget, your costs can spiral out of control. The best way to prevent this is to first work out what is important to you both. Maybe do this exercise separately, then come together to make your final, prioritised list. After that, decide how much you want to spend on the wedding in total and then assign an amount to each part of your wedding.
If you create and manage your budget before you get in too deep into wedding planning, it will also relieve a lot of your stress and make sure you keep on top of the invoices you receive and the payments you need to make.
Arya Stark: Manage your (list)
While you didn’t want to be on Arya’s list, having a list kept her focused on her end goal. To be on your list would be much, much nicer, but it still doesn’t mean you have to accommodate everyone. Make a list of all the people you want to celebrate with - don’t censor yourself, just write it. To save time you can give a priority to each person. Once you have a better idea of how many people your budget and venue can cater for, review your list and remove those with the lowest priority until you meet your numbers.
Lord Varys: Leverage your network
If you were looking for wedding supplies in Westeros Lord Varys and his little birds would be the people to ask as they know everything that’s going on. But in real life, it’s better to tap into your own network and ask friends and family for recommendations. Also, don’t forget about the online network. Social media is a great place to find suppliers, particularly Instagram - searching their location tags for your venue and finding the suppliers recommended by other suppliers is an excellent starting point.
Tyrion Lannister: “Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not.”
Your wedding day is a celebration and should show who you are to your favourite people. If you’re a couple who likes down to earth, non fussy events, a wedding at a five star hotel with lots of pomp and circumstance isn’t going to allow you to celebrate who you both really are.
Sansa Stark: “I’m sure cutting off heads is very satisfying, but that’s not the way you get people to work together.”
An excellent motto not only in terms of Game of Thrones wedding planning advice, but in general life, I hope you’d agree! It’s a useful one to remember in case things go wrong during your wedding planning: it can be a stressful endeavour and at times, tensions are going to run high. When you feel like you could throttle someone, take some deep breaths and remember what’s important: marrying your loved one, surrounded by your other loved ones. And breathe.
Daenerys Targaryen: “I’m not going to stop the wheel. I’m going to break the wheel."
Ah, Daenerys: queen of dragons, queen of our hearts. This is exactly the kind of attitude to take to wedding tradition that doesn’t resonate with you - if that’s the case, you shouldn’t be afraid to break it. Do you really love the idea of something, but worry it’s not ‘wedding’y enough, or that it’s not been done before so you don’t know whether you should do it? BREAK THE WHEEL!
Tywin Lannister: “A lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinions of a sheep.”
You may find, when you start wedding planning, that everyone has an opinion on your wedding. It can get quite overwhelming, to be honest! Most likely, they’re trying to be helpful, and there will be some advice and pointers that will be game-changing, I’m sure. But at the end of the day, you only have to do what you both feel is right.
Literally everyone, ever: “Winter is coming.”
Wouldn’t be a proper Game of Thrones wedding blog without this quote in there, would it?! But it’s a very good point from literally everyone who’s ever appeared on the show: don’t discount a winter wedding. Historically they’ve not been as popular, but they can be incredibly magical and beautifully emotional, too (looking for some winter wedding inspiration? Check out one of my faves!)
Game of Thrones wedding lessons for on the day
Sansa Stark: “The lone wolf dies but the pack survives”
She had a wise head on her shoulders, that young Sansa Stark, because she could recognise the importance of asking for help. It’s your job - no, your duty - to enjoy your wedding experience as much as possible, so don’t be afraid to delegate jobs to willing members of your wedding party. After all, that’s what they’re there to do!
Ser Davos: “No one mind me. All I’ve ever done is live to a ripe old age.”
On the day itself, it’s always worth bearing in mind the good old British weather. Unlike Westeros, with its sunny South and snowy North, our island’s weather isn’t so predictable: so make sure your plans are accessible to every guest, especially the older and less mobile ones. If it’s going to be a bit nippy, consider hiring blankets so they can snuggle up to your vows. Alternatively, if it’s going to be roasting, making sure there are bottles of water available for people can go a long way.
Tyrion Lannister: “Isn’t it a man’s duty to be drunk at his own wedding?”
Oh, good old Tyrion. If you will be drinking on your wedding day, it’s really worth remembering to eat the morning of. Task a trustworthy member of your wedding party to ensure you eat something, so that you’re not just running on adrenaline, an empty stomach, and alcohol on the big day!
Again, literally everyone: “You know nothing, Jon Snow”
At the end of the day, no amount of pre planning can fully prepare you for all the things that can (and sometimes will!) go wrong. So enjoy your day and remember what is important…
Jon Snow: “Different roads sometimes lead to the same castle.”
What I like about this particular piece of Game of Thrones wedding advice is that it’s like a sassy little call and response. He might not have known anything, but he did know this: sometimes things work out differently to how you planned, but it’ll turn out alright.
If you liked this Game of Thrones wedding advice, I’ve got one final one for you, from:
Tyrion Lannister: “The true history of the world is the history of great conversations.”
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