Changing your wedding because of COVID-19?
After months of excitement and planning for your big day, these past few weeks of uncertainty about COVID-19 have led you to make an incredibly difficult decision: To postpone your wedding. At first you may have wanted to go ahead, but each passing day has made you more and more concerned for the health of all the loved ones you wanted to be with you on the day. It’s OK to be upset. After all the hard work, time, energy and not to mention money you’ve put into it, this sucks big time.
Of course, no one wants to change their wedding date, but this is something you really can’t control. Just remember, you will get married. Your wedding may look different. It may be at a different time or location, but you will get married.
To cancel or postpone?
I believe the option that makes the most sense is to postpone, rather than cancel altogether. Any money you have paid to your suppliers is likely not refundable, but it could be possible to move it over to your new date. Now is the time to reread your supplier contracts. The situation surrounding COVID-19 is unprecedented, and suppliers may be willing to work with you to move things around.
As we all try and navigate this maze of change and unpredictability, I want to share with you a few tips to help you keep calm, carry on, and reschedule your wedding with confidence.
1. Contact your wedding insurance company
If you have insurance, contact them as soon as possible to find out what your policy covers, and what kind of support you can expect for them. Also, make sure that they’ve agreed to change your cover over to your new wedding date once you have confirmed it.
If you don’t have insurance, don’t beat yourself up - just make sure you do get cover for your new date.
2. Decide on a back up plan
Sit with your intended and any family members that need to help you with your back up plan. Discuss your options and what parts of your original day are key for you to keep in place. For example, if you had an outdoor ceremony planned, this may not work so well if you reschedule to October.
3. Contact your planner
Your planner can work with your suppliers on the best route forward for your new date. Get in touch as soon as you can, and find out what amendments can be made. If you don’t have a planner, simply move to step 4.
4. Speak to your suppliers
Let your suppliers know as soon as possible that your wedding date is changing. Work through the process together, and get an understanding of what payments are still due based on your previous wedding date.
I’ve been talking to a handful of suppliers these past few days who are also heart broken for their clients. Fortunately, they are also doing everything they can do to support their clients’ new wedding plans, and are being as flexible as they can be with their terms and conditions.
5. Let your guests know
Make sure your guests know about the change of plans at the earliest convenience. If you want to share something with your your favourite people to let them know you’re rescheduling , Lucy McSpirit Design has created a graphic you can screenshot and share with your guests either on social media or via email. Click on the image below to be taken to the post.
Once you’ve set your new date, again, the lovely Lucy McSpirit Design is doing all she can to support couples at this time and has an extremely generous offer. She will create a free, personalised e-vite for you to share with your guests, with your new dates and names. You can contact Lucy at email@example.com for your e-vite. Make sure you also take a look at her instagram post for the different designs available!
Once you’ve done the above, for your own sanity, don’t look at anything wedding related for a few weeks. Just because you’ve got a few extra months until your new date, don’t spend this time adding or changing things for your wedding that you already had confirmed. Treasure the time you have together, with both your intended and your friends and family.
Right now, the world is understandably anxious about what the future will look like. It’s stressful not knowing what’s around the corner and how it will impact your plans, and that’s why taking care of your mental and physical health at this time is key.
Here are a few things you can do to protect your health:
If you’re stuck at home, make the most of it. If you can, go for a walk and keep fit. Get creative and pick up hobbies you haven’t had time for in years. Call old friends - don’t text - and reconnect.
Limit your social media use as much as possible. You’ll go mad trying to make sense of all the conflicting advice and sorting out the true stories from the scaremongering.
If you’re feeling anxious, try the Wim Hof Breathing Method to relax. I’m doing this a couple of times a day, and it’s really helping me to feel very zen.
Let me know if you find a great show on Netflix or Amazon - I’m looking for some inspiration!
You’re going to feel a bit in limbo as your original date comes around, but do what you can to celebrate rather than commiserate the day, even if that’s just a glass of wine at home between the two of you!
I may not be your wedding photographer, but I’m here if you need to talk, or have any questions. At this time we’re all supporting each other, so don’t think you can’t get in touch - I’m here to help as much as I can.