10 Things Every Bride Should Feel Prepared For

Wedding planning can be a huge amount of fun! However, it can quickly become stressful when you’re not sure what to expect.

As a Wedding Photographer, I’ve been around many different brides, at many different stages of their wedding planning, so I’d like to think I’ve picked up a few good tips from them over the years.

I’d like to pass these tips on to you. May they help you feel more human during this overwhelming time.

1. You Will talk About Weddings. A lot.
keep calm and confetti on bag of confetti
Somehow, not every bride-­to-­be realises just how much she talks about her wedding. Granted, as soon as you announce your engagement everyone is dying to know all the details, but even your best friend’s eyes will glaze over while discussing the benefits of a buffet over a sit down meal.

You’re excited, so it’s understandable, but remember to change the subject every now and then, before your friends stop answering their phones completely.

2. Stick To Your Budget...And Buy Early
wedding bouquets on table
Spreadsheets are your new best friend - move over Maid of Honour!. Add every little item to it, no matter how small. If it’s for the wedding, keep track of it and give yourself plenty of time to pay your suppliers. For example, making purchases for a wedding due in 18 months vs. 9 months time will give you a longer repayment window, and will hopefully reduce your stress in the build up to your wedding.

3. You Will Not Always Agree
Bride and Groom Holding Hands
As a couple, you may be an absolute match made in heaven, but it is very unlikely you will agree on everything. Whether it’s venue, the catering or the guest list, you will have the odd word to say here and there. Don’t forget, marriage is all about compromise, so think of this as an ideal opportunity for a rehearsal. Dancing to Bohemian Rhapsody is totally worth the double-chocolate soufflé dessert, right?!

4. Everyone has an opinion
Wedding Photo Booth Props on Bush
A friend of a friend has been to your dream honeymoon destination and wasn’t that impressed. My advice? Nod along politely and then do exactly what you want! You’ll also find that you won’t need to ask many people for their opinions, as many will give them for free!

However, if you aren’t too sure about something, speak to an expert. Specialists in their field will be able to suggest ideas that you otherwise might not think of until it’s too late! For example, individual shots with each member of your bridal party. It’s a great way to capture your relationship as well as personalities.

5. Do Not Compare Your Wedding to Others
Bride With Photo Booth Props
Maybe a friend has already sorted out her venue, dress, catering, photographer and bridesmaid outfits, as well as organise their wedding day timeline, yet her wedding is 4 months after yours? Don’t let their organisational-wizardry freak you out. Wedding planning shouldn’t feel like a competitive sport or a race to the finish line, you should make the most of it. Plus, if they’re rushing, they may well have forgotten something!

6. You Will Cry Over Nothing
bride and groom butterfly stencils on wine glasses
Your wedding underwear is giving you more of a muffin-top than a sleek look? It’s harder than you thought to collect 20 vintage tea sets? Your flower girl refuses to wear pink? ­Who can blame her, Spongebob Squarepants would never wear pink.

With so much thought, time and effort being put into this one day, bursting into tears is imminent. Take regular breaks from wedding planning and remember that when the actual day comes, all you’ll really want to do is marry your best friend. Aw, who knew you were so romantic! ;)

7. Asking For Help Is Not A Sign Of Weakness
Groomsmen Putting Wedding Ribbon on Car
Delegate. Delegate. Delegate! No matter how organised you are, you will need some help. There are lots of friends and family who will want to help. It might come in handy to be mindful of people who do not have big roles on the day and try to involve them in other ways. Remember to keep your fiancé informed of everything too.

If you’re going to do it yourself, have a wedding folder and write down who is doing what, so you stay organised and have brilliant evidence if someone else forgets which job is theirs!

8. Don’t Be Fooled By Pinterest
Bride and Groom Hugging in Park
Many brides turn to Pinterest for inspiration. And why wouldn’t you? Every photo looks like it comes from an actual catalogue of dreams. As a Pinterest addict myself, I understand how easy it is to develop a full-on obsession when planning every details.

However, we live in a world of budgets and our friends aren’t all super-models, well maybe not all of them....Pick a few bits you like and recreate them as best you can, but don't worry if you can’t recreate the impossible.

9. Choose Your Wing-Women Wisely
flower girl helping bride put her make up on
Which friends can you rely on to cheer you up? Which one can talk you off of the ledge, know when to get everyone out of your way or help you go to the loo when lifting your dress is a job for two? Weddings are stressful enough without losing friends along the way. With the right mix of friends around you, the little things aren’t nearly as troublesome.

10. It Is About The Two of You
bride and groom sharing their first kiss
The most important thing is that you both say your vows. Enjoy the process and be sure to listen to each other during that beautiful moment. This whole day is about you and your husband, perhaps 51% you, and you should be celebrating your beautiful union. Remember to love the journey, as much as you love each other.

Take care,


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